Monday, October 20, 2014

Remembering "Dad" Garfield Beynon


Over this past weekend, PA DeMolay played host to its annual Flag Football Tournament at Patton Campus. As usual, the event was well attended and filled with good, quality, sportsman-like competition. Yet, even as the young men played hard on the field, they took a moment to remember someone who could not be with them.

"Dad" Garfield Beynon, who was an Advisor for Crusade Chapter in Scranton, PA, died in a tragic automobile accident last December on his way home from PA DeMolay's annual Grand Master's Class. "Dad" Beynon was a fixture of not only Crusade Chapter, but also PA DeMolay. To honor his memory, Crusade Chapter talked with the PMYF office about dedicating a tree in honor of "Dad" Beynon on Patton Campus, in Elizabethtown, where he spent many a weekend over the last 30+ years.

On Saturday, October 18, 2014, members and friends of PA DeMolay and Crusade Chapter gathered around a new tree, to honor the memory of "Dad" Beynon. The Master Councilor, the Junior Councilor (who is also "Dad" Beynon's grandson), and the Chapter Advisor of Crusade Chapter all spoke about the impact he had before placing the first shovel of dirt around the base of the tree, which will stand as a fitting reminder of the impact this man had on all who came in contact with him.

Thank you to everyone who helped remember "Dad" Beynon - we know his tree will grow strong and loom large, just like his work with the young men.

Frat! ~ "Dad" Seth Anthony 

Thursday, October 16, 2014

A Long Delayed Thank You

Earlier this week, I was packing up some boxes in my basement in anticipation of moving. The task seemed pretty menial at the time. I was digging through old photos, discarding items I no longer used, and generally creating order out of chaos. In one of the boxes, I found a stash of office supplies that used to be at my desk when I was in high school and college. It contained pencils, pens, a hole punch, etc. At the bottom of the pile, I discovered a small green box and recalled that it contained something unusual.

You see, in this box, was an honest to goodness fountain pen. That's right - one of those "old timey" writing instruments that were primarily used before the invention of the ball point pen. My memory having been appropriately jogged, I started remembering where the pen had come from. Then it struck me. I must have been 11 or 12 years old and the pen was a gift from an older couple my parents showed dogs with. I used to visit them and assist them with caring for their Pulis (a rare canine breed from Hungary.)

I decided to take the pen into the office and see if I could get it working. After a few minutes of cleaning out the ink and attaching a new inkwell, the pen was working smoothly and I was off and writing. Let me just say, there is nothing quite like signing your name with a fountain pen! Now that the instrument was back and working, I was curious about the value. I did a quick internet search and was flabbergasted. The pen, which I then held, was no ordinary writing utensil. It was a Cross brand pen with a 14k nib (the part that the ink flows to which touches the paper.) Little did I know, this pen was a very expensive gift to a very unappreciative "tweenage" me.

Now knowing the value of what I was given, and quite frankly, appreciating it a lot more, I called up my folks and asked if they still knew the couple who had given me the pen (as I hadn't talked to them in years.) They were    elderly and my parents hadn't seen them in quite some time. I took to the internet and tried to do some searching, but sadly, came up fruitless. So, to Bobbi and Bernie Silverman, if you ever happen to come across this blog post, please know just how incredibly thankful I am; not only for the pen, but for the life lessons you taught me.

As usual, you are probably saying to yourself "Wow, cool story, but what does this have to do with DeMolay?" As we approach the Thanksgiving holiday, I'm reminded just how ungrateful we generally can be. I know that I'm guilty of that trait at times. It's important to take time to say thank you to those that assist your life. Whether those persons be your parents (the first Precept, Filial Love), your Advisors and mentors (the third Precept, Courtesy), or your friends (the fourth Precept, Comradeship), we all need to find time to be more appreciative of those around us.

In that spirit, I have a thank you card to write (with my new pen, of course!)

Frat! ~ "Dad" Seth Anthony

Monday, October 13, 2014

Tips for Being an Expert Public Speaker

While looking for something to Blog about today, I came across an excellent infographic that can help all of us become better public speakers. Credit goes to http://holykaw.alltop.com/9-step-cheat-sheet-for-becoming-a-public-speaking-expert-infographic where I found the image. Use that link to see a zoomed in version!

Frat! ~ "Dad" Seth Anthony

 

Thursday, October 9, 2014

A Throwback Thursday Post

Generally, I'm not big on the "Throwback Thursday" type of postings. But, in anticipation of an upcoming move, I stumbled across a cache of old DeMolay pictures I had tossed into a box in my basement. I gathered them and realized there were some real gems in there, so I just had to share some with you today. I've tried to keep the pictures to ones where you'd recognize someone other than myself.

But, first, for those that might be curious, here is my term plan as Master Councilor of my Chapter, Erie, in 2002. Notice, it was written on a Word Processor (a fancy typewriter) as I didn't have a reliable printer at home at the time.

 
That was a busy six months, for sure, as I was a Freshman in college to boot! Now, on with the photos!
 
From the first CLUE event at Patton campus. From Left to Right you see "Dad" Chris Fry - then Deputy State Master Councilor, now Chairman of Elizabethtown Chapter; T. David Slugocki, then State Junior Councilor; "Dad" Steve Prazenica, then State Senior Councilor, now a Past State Master Councilor; "Dad" Brent Richards portraying the Butler; "Dad" Jim Ray portraying Mr. Green; "Mom" Yolanda Weider portraying Mrs. White ("Mom" Weider has since passed away.)' "Mom" Donna Brown portraying Mrs. Peacock.

To prove things never change, this is Bro. Steve Prazenica preparing for his election speech at Convention 2002 in Reading, PA.

"Dad" Justin Killian, PSMC, at DI Sessions in Denver, CO, circa 2004..

"Dad" Dave Berry, Executive Secretary, at DeMolay International Sessions in 2004.

Myself and "Dad" Richard Fitzsimmons, PDDGM, at DeMolay International Sessions in 2004.

"Dad" Dave Berry at the 2004 DeMolay International Session banquet in Denver, CO.

Another 2004 DI Banquet Photo. From left to right "Dad" Chris "Tex" Tecklenburg, Secretary of the Valley of Reading, AASR; "Dad" Ray Gottschall, Chairman of Reading Chapter; "Dad" Jim Ray, Deputy Executive Officer.

Another 2004 DI Banquet Photo. From left to right "Dad" Randy Knapp, Deputy Executive Officer; "Dad" Rick Freedman, Deputy Executive Officer (with mustache!)

My corps of officers when I was Master Councilor. Familiar faces would include "Dad" Zack Panitzke, Director of the Key Man Conference and my first line signer, on the top right hand side in the back; and "Dad" Jake Palo directly in front of and below him.

Justin Killian, John Wendell Haney (then International Congress Secretary) and myself at the DeMolay International Banquet in 2004 in Denver, CO.

Convention 2004 Installation. From left to right, Justin Killian, myself, Justin Dunmire, David Labagh

Another photo to prove things don't change - Grand Lodge Banquet in 2004 in Pittsburgh, PA, handing out lapel pins!

This was taken at Family First Sports Complex in Erie when Elizabethtown Chapter came for a visit circa 2004. From left to right we find Nick Chaudoin (Elizabethtown); myself; Shawn Vulatic of Elizabethtown; and in front is TJ Barton of Erie.

The next two are priceless! "Dad" Peter Brusoe, then International Master Councilor, presenting me with my patent as an Honorary Past International Master Councilor at DI Sessions in Denver, CO, in 2004.

"Dad" Brusoe and I at the banquet at the same session.

This photo shows "Dad" Zack Panitzke (in the blue shirt) at Patton Campus playing Risk with his father (in the yellow shirt), and Ben Babb (black shirt on the left) and Jordan Heynoski (grey shirt.) This is circa 2002.

I'm taking a bit of personal editorial license here. This is me with my grandmothers the day I was installed as Master Councilor. Both drove over an hour and a half to attend my installation and it was the only time they ever saw me do anything in DeMolay. They have both since passed away.

This is one sleepy "Dad" Panitzke in the van on the way home from CLUE in Elizabethtown.

... and one more of a young "Dad" Pantizke and Justin Killian in 2002 at Convention in Reading.
So, there you have it. I hope you enjoyed!
 
Frat! ~ "Dad" Seth Anthony
 
 
 

Monday, October 6, 2014

What is Servant Leadership?

In DeMolay, we often talk about the idea of servant leadership. It's a style of leadership that I have attempted to adopt as I have taken on roles in other Masonic organizations. It's served me well, but I recently began to ponder where it came from and its true definition.

According to Wikipedia, the idea of servant leadership has existed from time immemorial. From the Tao Te Ching, to the Gospel of Mark, to the doctrines of Islam, the ideas of servant leadership have been a major part of movements for thousands of years. However, the term "servant leadership" was coined in 1970 by Robert Greenleaf, a management executive, in his essay "The Servant as Leader." In it, Greenleaf wrote:

“The servant-leader is servant first… It begins with the natural feeling that one wants to serve, to serve first. Then conscious choice brings one to aspire to lead. That person is sharply different from one who is leader first, perhaps because of the need to assuage an unusual power drive or to acquire material possessions…The leader-first and the servant-first are two extreme types. Between them there are shadings and blends that are part of the infinite variety of human nature.

The difference manifests itself in the care taken by the servant-first to make sure that other people’s highest priority needs are being served. The best test, and difficult to administer, is: Do those served grow as persons? Do they, while being served, become healthier, wiser, freer, more autonomous, more likely themselves to become servants? And, what is the effect on the least privileged in society? Will they benefit or at least not be further deprived?“

Greenleaf's paper ignited the management community and his new style of leadership became quite popular. Others would go on to research his idea and later the 10 Principles of Servant Leadership were established. They are as follows:
  • Listening: A servant leader puts the emphasis upon listening effectively to others.
  • Empathy: A servant leader needs to understand others' feelings and perspectives.
  • Healing: A servant leader helps foster each person's emotional and spiritual health and wholeness.
  • Awareness: A servant leader understands his or her own values and feelings, strengths and weaknesses.
  • Persuasion: A servant leader influences others through their persuasiveness.
  • Conceptualization: A servant leader needs to integrate present realities and future possibilities.
  • Foresight: A servant leader needs to have a well developed sense of intuition about how the past, present, and future are connected.
  • Stewardship: A servant leader is a steward who holds an organization's resources in trust for the greater good.
  • Commitment to the growth of people: A servant leader is responsible for serving the need of others.
  • Building community: A servant leader is to help create a sense of community among people.
These are great principles to put into effect when you are leading a DeMolay Chapter. They serve as sort of a "road map" of how a leader should behave.

Now, how can you apply these ideas in your life to become a better servant leader?

Frat! ~ "Dad" Seth Anthony